21 Traits of an Awakening Soul

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You can say its because of a global shift in consciousness, a destiny we have arrived at due to spiritual evolution, or the outcome of strange times, but, many people all across the globe are going through intense personal changes and sensing an expansion of consciousness. Personal changes of this magnitude can be difficult to recognize and to understand, but here are 21 traits of an awakening soul, a ‘sensitive’, or an ‘empath.’

1.  Being in public places is sometimes overwhelming. Since our walls between self and other are dissolving, we haven’t really learned to distinguish between someone else’s energy and our own. If the general mood of the crowd is herd-like or negative, we can feel this acutely, and may feel like retreating into our own private space. When we have recharged our batteries with meditation, spending time in nature, far away from other people, or just sitting in quiet contemplation, we are ready to be with the masses again. In personal relationships, we often will feel someone else’s emotions as our own. It is important to have this higher sense of empathy, but we must learn to allow another person’s emotions while observing them and keeping our empathy, but, realizing that not all emotions belong to usSocial influence can dampen our own innate wisdom.

2.  We know things without having to intellectually figure them out. Often called intuitive awareness, we have ‘a-ha’ moments and insights that can explain some of the most complex theories or phenomenon in the world. Some of the most brilliant minds of our time just ‘know.’ Adepts and sages often were given downloads of information from higher states of consciousness after meditating or being in the presence of a more conscious individual; this is happening for more people with more frequency. As we trust our intuition more often, it grows stronger.  This is a time of ‘thinking’ with our hearts more than our heads. Our guts will no longer be ignored. Our dreams are becoming precognitive and eventually our conscious thoughts will be as well.

3.  Watching television or most of main stream media, including newspapers and many Hollywood movies is very distasteful to us. The mindset that creates much, but not all, of the programming on television and in cinema is abhorrent. It commodifies people and promotes violence. It reduces our intelligence and numbs our natural empathetic response to someone in pain.

4.  Lying to us is nearly impossible. We may not know exactly what truth you are withholding, but we can also tell (with our developing intuition and ESP skills) that something isn’t right. We also know when you have other emotions, pain, love, etc. that you aren’t expressing. You’re an open book to us. We aren’t trained in counter-intelligence, we are just observant and knowing. While we may pick up on physical cues, we can look into your eyes and know what you are feeling.

5.  We may pick up symptoms of your cold, just like men who get morning sickness when their wives are pregnant. Sympathy pains, whether emotional or physical, are something we experience often. We tend to absorb emotion through the solar plexus, considered the place we ‘stomach emotion’ so as we learn to strengthen this chakra center, we may sometimes develop digestive issues. Grounding to the earth can help to re-establish our emotional center. Walking barefoot is a great way to re-ground.

6.  We tend to root for the underdog, those without voices, those who have been beaten down by the matrix, etc. We are very compassionate people, and these marginalized individuals often need more love. People can sense our loving hearts, so complete strangers will often tell us their life stories or approach us with their problems. While we don’t want to be a dumping ground for everyone’s issues, we are also a good ear for those working through their stuff.

7.  If we don’t learn how to set proper boundaries, we can get tired easily from taking on other people’s emotions. Energy Vampires are drawn to us like flies to paper, so we need to be extra vigilant in protecting ourselves at times.

8.  Unfortunately, sensitives or empaths often turn to drug abuse or alcohol to block some of their emotions and to ‘protect’ themselves from feeling the pain of others.

9.  We are all becoming healers. We naturally gravitate toward healing fields, acupuncture, reiki, Qi-Gong, yoga, massage, midwivery, etc. are fields we often find ourselves in. We know that the collective needs to be healed, and so we try our best to offer healing in whatever form we are most drawn to. We also turn away from the ‘traditional’ forms of healing ourselves. Preferring natural foods, herbs, and holistic medicine as ways to cure every ailment.

10.  We see the possibilities before others do. Just like when the church told Copernicus he was wrong, and he stood by his heliocentric theory, we know what the masses refuse to believe. Our minds are light-years ahead.

11.  We are creative. We sing, dance, paint, invent, or write. We have amazing imaginations.

12.  We require more solitude than the average person.

13.  We might get bored easily, but we are really good at entertaining ourselves.

14.  We have a difficult time doing things we don’t want to do or don’t really enjoy. We really do believe life was meant to be an expression of joy. Why waste it doing something you hate? We aren’t lazy, we are discerning.

15.  We are obsessed with bringing the truth to light. Like little children who say, “that’s not fair” we want to right the wrongs of the world, and we believe it often just takes education. We endeavor to explain the unexplainable and find answers to the deep questions of life. We are seekers, in the Campbellian paradigm. ‘The Hero With a Thousand Faces.”

16.  We can’t keep track of time. Our imaginations often get away with us and a day can feel like a minute, a week, a day.

17.  We abhor routine.

18.  We often disagree with authority (for obvious reasons).

19.  We will often be kind, but if you are egotistical or rude, we won’t spend much time with you or find an excuse to not hang out with people who are obsessed with themselves. We don’t ‘get’ people who are insensitive to other people’s feelings or points of view.

20.  We may be vegan or vegetarian because we can sense a certain energy of the food we eat, like if an animal was slaughtered inhumanely. We don’t want to consume negative energy.

21.  We wear our own emotions on our sleeves and have a hard time ‘pretending’ to be happy if we aren’t. We avoid confrontation, But will quietly go about changing the world in ways you can’t even see.

These 21 traits of an awakening soul are a reminder of how important it is to maintain awareness, clarity and strength in these interesting times. If you are experiencing something that is not on this list, please add it to the comments section below.

About the Author

Christina Sarich is a musician, yogi, humanitarian and freelance writer who channels many hours of studying Lao Tzu, Paramahansa Yogananda, Rob Brezny, Miles Davis, and Tom Robbins into interesting tidbits to help you Wake up Your Sleepy Little Head, and See the Big Picture. Her blog is Yoga for the New World. Her latest book is Pharma Sutra: Healing the Body And Mind Through the Art of Yoga.

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  • corliss

    Static Vision

  • Reese Daniel

    Add persecution (character assassination/slander, etc) by truth haters to the list.

  • Anonymous

    Repressed emotions and memories begin to resurface on the concious level of the mind.

  • Steven

    Malcolm, and anyone else whose interested, there is a fantastic and unique love cyber-space (read: free online forum) at “GaiaScene.com”. It may well be the first internet space that values love and sharing and does not tolerate anything that would put the love and sharing into doubt. But beyond that, people can and do talk about almost everything.

    My username there is the same as what I’ve posted here: “Steven”.

    Look forward to any and all of you who wish to be part of GaiaScene!

  • Shyamalee

    Can someone explain the continuous strange sound above the crown chakra or the head or whatever.Very intense during quite meditative or praying moments.

  • unfortunately/sadly, even if I have all these 21 traits, but in this reality, I still have such a very hard time finding a job (or business) that “makes money”, due to mostly me being ‘hyper-sensitive’ as mentioned in those 21 traits .. so I’m still a BIG LOSER, even now as I approach the age of 32 yrs old …

    please, someone, really help me, in PRACTICAL (‘worldly’) ways…! 🙁

  • London

    This piece definitely hit home for me. It feels “safe” to know that empaths/sensitives are operating among the collective & quietly changing our world, as opposed to me accepting that I’m a fucking weirdo. One point I’d like to add to the overwhelming aspect of public places is my personal sensitivity to talking, left-brain chatter. I have a very sensitive boundary when it comes to listening to friends/family/coworkers/random people talk about topics that I deem “miscellaneous” or do not allow me to offer empathy. I just can not find the concentration (or sometimes relevance) to be among people who talk too much. I have become an extremely quiet person in all of my social interactions unless I’m specifically needed for comment, encouragement, or to be a voice of light. Otherwise, I find that left-brain chatter to be extremely intrusive.

  • BJ

    Here is another testimonial that this article is right on target. I’m so glad to know that I’m not alone.
    Thank you.
    It’s so odd how many of us come from families that haven’t shown a single scintilla of awakening. It’s pretty much just me and ONE COUSIN that have shown any predilection toward being natural Empaths. What’s even stranger, we live a thousand miles apart, haven’t seen each other since 1991, but we like the same music, the same art, and share the traits listed above.

  • B.Wright

    It’s amazing to me how many of these supposed “traits of an awakening soul” can be seen as traits of something else. It’s even more amazing to me that the idiot who wrote this — and many of the people who’ll read it — can’t see that.

    Psychiatrists would see numbers 1, 3, 5, and 7 as indicators of a person on the brink of a psychotic break, unable to cope with everyday events and attempting to spin that into a supposedly positive thing.

    Similarly, numbers 2, 4, 6, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, and 21 are all signs of delusional narcissism, otherwise known as runaway ego or out-of-control self-importance.

    In other words, if your first reaction to reading through this was to think, “Wow! I’m really close to being awakened,” you’re much closer to “awakening” into a full-blown personality disorder than you thought.

    • Reese Daniel

      Projection of a true narcissists. They always twist the truth onto themselves and project their own slime onto their targets. Pathetic

  • Alejandro

    Lately i’ve realised that the reason why i’ve ‘failed’ repeatedly in my life is because i’ve never played by my rules but the rules of others.
    I’ve let others judge me, evaluate me, tell me what to do, etc. This is my life so now i play my game and i enjoy it everyday.

    Trying to fit where you don’t belong is a recipe for failure!

  • Rebecca

    I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this list, but even more than that, I have loved reading everyone’s comments. I have felt a strange thing; a feeling of connectedness and understanding, that I rarely feel in my day to day life.
    I agree whole heartedly with everybody’s notions of feeling alone. I feel alone, I feel ‘different’…I feel everything…good and bad, its relentless! This leads me to withdraw and isolate myself to build my energy back up. Its a battle of wanting to be alone in my safe sanctuary, and a deep longing to connect with people who understand, and feel me.
    I have found my job, turns me into an emotional sponge…and I believe this is when my true empath traits starting coming to the forefront. As I become more and more aware of myself, the people and being’s around me, and life itself…I feel more and more overwhelmed. I cant tell where I end, and other’s begin!
    I remember this feeling of being ‘different’ at pre-school age, all the other kids would be playing in the sand pit, drawing, running around playing make believe….and I would withdraw, walk over to a quiet spot and cry. Even at that age, which would’ve only been age 5 or 6, I felt like an anomaly. I felt different, but I couldn’t work out why.
    At 27, I still feel that way, but now I understand it! I’m so happy to read that there are so many other’s with the same feeling, and experiences as myself! I go through days where I love my traits and wear them proudly, and other days they feel like a burden to me.
    I would love to know how many of you lovely bright souls are vegetarian, or vegan?
    I have started eating a vegetarian diet as of this year and I feel such a weight lifted from my soul from that decision alone.

  • I am doing good. I am doing a lot of these things.

  • I love this piece. It is so true! There are so many people who just don’t “get it” what “it” may be! They see in black and white, while we tend to read between the lines. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in this crazy journey we call life. Love to all my emotional “feelers” out there!

  • Anonymous

    I can’t help but become increasingly frustrated the more ‘awake’ I feel

  • Jose

    I identify with a lot of these points which is rather strange. I feel very alone (in the NYC) despite understanding of the possibility that there are others who can relate and even guide me in my journey.

    Hopefully this paralyzes is lifted just a wee bit from merely opening up. Maybe get a grip in the form of motivation or sense of urgency. Perhaps I can become “self sufficient.” The only thing I know to be real and consistent is the lack of cash flow and my on-going battle to give in mainstream thinking because it’s the only way to lift the shackles. all though I see clearly, evidence of this being sure way to worsen current standings. Which way is up/forward or as I like to say – progress?

  • keith


  • I sometimes worry when I read things like this, that I am being blinded by human nature traits that we all have inside us. I have to say I enjoyed reading it and really felt less alone afterwards. I identified with 99% of it, I have felt abnormal most of my life, all I ever wanted was to feel like how I imagine others feel. I have spent my entire life hiding from strangers. I see/feel/imagine an entire life time for every face I see,played out from their beginning to their end. This is why I hate crowds and require friends nearby to distract me from public faces and conversations I shouldn’t be hearing. I worry it’s my mind assuming who/what type of person they are, and that I am not giving them a fair chance. Luckily, this doesn’t happen with my close friends and family, I think that is because I know them and keep them close, somehow that real knowledge stops my mind from second guessing. The scary thing is, over the years I have found that I am really good at guessing what people are like and what they will do. The sad thing is, most of what I see is dark and selfish…. I understand animals, they are honest… people lie too much, not only to others but themselves.

  • Anonymous

    As the Autumn autumns, so the Spring springs.

  • Elle

    While I don’t exhibit all 21 traits that you’ve talked about, I do have a lot of them! The need to be alone, being a crative soul, dealing with E.V.s, having an ability to read peoples emotions very well, wanting to be with nature more than with others, being in crowds or around a lot of people for very long I do need to find a quiet place after a while, I am rarely on time lol, I always root for the underdog and many other triats. When I pray for others I feel a peace come over me when the prayer is heartfelt and a knowing somehow of the eventual outcome for that persons problem. Plus I also have a deep love for alternative medicine, especially the more natural methods! I abore anything,person or company that goes against nature and the natural order of things, any one who tries or does mess with nature and our foods, or who promotes chemicls over natural remedies. I believe we should be going back to more natural way of living, like our parents or grandparents did, but with a much more knowledgable and in tune understanding than they had. I have felt for a long time that everything is connected on this planet. The power of good and higher thinking versus that of evil or apathy and lower baser thinking…one of these will win out eventually. I tend to believe that good will, because people all over the world are rebelling against the tide of control terror war and hate. No matter what country you live in, it will eventually come to your country too, I just hope that it will be a peaceful rebellion and not like some of those we have seen last year!

  • Anon

    reading throw the comments i could feel you all .. so nice to meet you all 🙂 … i’ve been feeling like this for the last year, and it was like …. too much to handle for me .. but reading a lot and understanding what is happening to me it really makes my life easier. i still have a lot of issues to get sorted, but the thing that i am not alone makes me look forward to it. great post Chris 😉 .. i have a few more symptoms, like sensitive head and extra energy feel in my body , but i understand that the symptoms may vary a litlle. thanks a lot everybody for being there and i hope that someday we can all be trully free as is supossed to be. love u all 🙂

  • Shravaka

    Wonderful article… However, based on too many of the comments, a couple insights might be prudent:

    – It’s not about you… It never was. It’s about being of service to the Light.

    – Who is this “I” that everyone is referring to? If our orientation continues to be self centered, and we cannot transcend our conditioned egoist attachments and fixations, then by definition our drama and chaos will continue. This includes a spiritual ego, spiritual bypassing, or assuming that a familiarity with this list makes someone ‘special’. Hence; get out of your own way….

    Within the context of Unity/Oneness and Equality at a Higher vibratory level it is about “we”, not ‘me’….

    Love to you,

  • Etienne Marais

    I read most of the comments, but not all, so my apologies if I repeat. Perhaps you can add to the list ‘experiencing metaphysical aspects’. I have become aware of myself during an OBE. Rational people tell me that it is a projection of my mind, but my reference point was my spiritual body in a 3-D setting, where I became aware of my body some distance away from me.
    Also, showing an interest in quantum physics, cosmology, ancient societies, pre-history, aliens, dna, origin of humans, etc.
    Perhaps also inomnia/feeling tired, as some of us are apparently doing healing (Earth) at night…
    I am an ex-accountant/programmer and ‘loner’ who escaped routine and am now teaching English and writing fiction in a Buddhist country.

  • Francene

    To everyone, please don’t underestimate the power and need for lots of naps! Despite everything else I engage in to calm my spirit, find stillness, and make sense of things, more often than not, it is only when I give into the nap calling me, sinking into the soft, warm embrace of my bed, that things seem to have rearranged themselves very nicely upon awakening…sometimes after only 15 minutes! Hugs to all!

  • GypsyBlues

    I am an empathy. I am an “odd duck”. I also happen to see 11’s consistently, without searching them out. Anyone else?
    They make me feel happy and reassured. In tune with the universe and my place in it.

    • GypsyBlues

      empath, not empathy…lol

    • Reese Daniel

      Ive been seeing them constantly for 7 years. I feel a sense of Divine warning and urgency when I see them, like Divine Judgment from Jesus Christ is headed our way and we need to repent of our sins and get right with Him. (Obviously I don’t subscribe to New Age doctrine, but I can identify with most of the above list). Jesus said those who belonged to Him are a “peculiar people” and that they would be hated and misunderstood by the world.

  • John Kohl

    Good to see there are more like myself. May we all meet someday.

  • Thank you very much…

  • Sadiesan

    The cultural intensity of the season can be overstimulating, depleting. My love for this curious life brought me to this webpage after an incredible thirst for essence replenishment came over me. So here I chime in: I vibrate with the 21+ traits; yet, most significantly, I resonate clear through the trail of comments leading me to fresh water. I sense strong inspiration we’re generating here in the commentary. Taking in our voices has been tonight’s communion. Highly sensitive wisdom, and reassuring souls ~ I smirk because even the physical repercussions of my mental excitement over the collecting inspiration can render me temporarily useless to the predominant consensus reality I seek to escape. I playfully remind myself I’m not alone, that in truth, while I’m deciding if I should go with a consonant or buy a vowel in this “Wheel of Fortune Game of Life”, Love is always present, ready to find me, even when I’m uncomfortably oblivious that I’m over-processing the vibrations of those around me, ready to reveal to me yet another opportunity to grow my perspective and renew my level of consciousness. Light – Heart Open – Courage – Serenity – Abundance – Magic – Authenticty – Creativtiy – with all Affections 🙂

  • Christoffer

    Yes! I´m suprised to feel right on with all 21 traits. But I also have big trouble getting some good sleep, wich gets me in a “not so good – cycle”, wich I know I can “fix” within meditations, but I can´t seem to find the time nor space in this period, with people all around and work everyday. Need of solutions (without losing my job or building mind walls) took me here. Very important reminders all over the place, fuzzy warm feelings:) Thankyou for great energy. One day I´m going to build an floating island,yes seriously, I would want all of you to come visit, seriously. Except for 2 of you reading this, you know who you are and why.

  • Cha

    Dear wakers,
    I feel so lost right now … 1 year ago, I lived a mind-changing psychedelic experience with mushs, a bad-looping-trip far more intense than all the previous ones I already had in my life. Almost 10 hours stuck into this never-ending loop, this alter-reality with a total Ego-Death : I usually love to loose my Ego, my own perception to enhance the “whole”, this “oceanism”, but this time It totally upset my harmony of body and soul for several months. I had a severe depression during 6 months, and suffered from hard depersonnalisation/derealisation. With time, I slowly learned how to control my crisis, feelings and oversensitivity, but I still feel some times, and really believe it can all go on again, even worth,without warnings. The edge is so tight …
    I only smoke from this event (no more psyches) it helps me to refocuse my mind and clean my spirit, but I want to completely stop every psychotrops (including alcool and tobaco). Every help would be greatly appreciated, as you people seem to understand your soul, how it works, and how you can awake it without permanent damage. I dont regret my choices, my past 10-years experiences with psychedelics (I’m 27), but I now fear to go further, too far, to a point with no return. I want to make healthier choices, be more patient, be more cautious with my life-journey. But I don’t really know where to start …

    Wish you a Merry, and a wonderfull night, love

    • Francene

      Dear Cha, I would say to start from exactly where you are now, and follow your instincts to not push the edge any further now by using mind-altering substances, and to do everything you can to learn caution and stillness. The fact that you are now asking these questions, even after having gone through a nightmarish experience, would seem to say that you are all right. You, for some reason, just had to go through a major re-wiring of your brain and consciousness far more rapidly than most souls can endure, and this, too, speaks of your spirit’s strength. You are young, with many experiences ahead of you, so be grateful for who you are, what you have, and what you have experienced. This is just the beginning!

  • SirTristan

    wow it feels great to know we are going through this together. Meditate, excercise, good sleep, try to set a schedule for yourself… this will help with the lost sense of time as well as help get your life together in all aslpects, and always remember life is good so keep smiling and laughing mofos!

  • kerry

    ‘our minds are lightyears ahead’… for someone claiming to be spiritual that is very arrogant. You claim empathy and then speak as if you are better than others. I find it to be a baffling contradiction.

    • auspiciousbunny

      I understand what you are saying. Everyone is different. Personally I do not have a large ego. I feel very tentative and curious about my existence. Uncertain. I do not equate spiritual depth with never expressing a negative emotion, but with a kind of willingness to go through it even if you suffer to some degree. Anyone can feel free to rant to me about their stress. Mainstream life can easily become a kind of psychic prison at the present time. There is an incredible state of dissociation from others’ suffering going on. Meanwhile, we are all connected as human beings and life form. Even if we are not consciously aware of it, somewhere in our subconcious minds we feel the reality of this suffering, We feel the wars, the drones, the deprivation – whether cultural or spiritual or material, and the animals that are suffering. Without even thinking about it we know all of this experience. We are under a lot of stress.

  • stephen

    Has any one had astral projections or sleep paralysis ?

    • Anon

      sometimes when i need some peacefull place in my busy life .. i close my eyes and imagine myself swiming in space … throw the stars and the planets and the sun and everything that is up there, and i can really feel myself there. do you experience something similar ?

  • Brilliant, truly resonates-my son forwarded this link to me and so glad he did! We all have so much more to learn……

    Thank you for what you share Christina!


  • diego

    saludos desde chile, aqui tambien nos ocurre, bless!

  • Edward

    So one thing I have noticed as of late is that I feel connected to other friends across the country. This can be a dream I had about them and waking up with a text from them at 7 am. I feel like we are the same person to an extent. Like our brains are on the same frequency and we talk about this as if we are the only ones who are experiencing this. I know there are others but the majority of people I know would think I am insane for saying this. The whole trying to figure out life thing is a major issue too. Just feeling like there is not a purpose and that everything I have Been told is all bullshit. It gets hard to focus on the current because the future is a blank slate, constantly rewriting itself. Basically nothing is making sense at all, and the only way I’m able to keep sane is by talking to other people that feel this exact way. And there is only a couple of friends that do. Thankful I have them as friends. This could all be typical 25 year old life problems. But I sense that it is something much bigger than this. It seems constantly chaotic. But I am in tune to most of things on this list so I figured id comment. Cheers!!

    • david

      no its not a 25 year old thing 🙂

  • Anonymous

    I appreciate knowing that more and more, people are feeling acceptance of him or herself. Feelings are OK and feeling another’s emotional frequency is OK too. And finally, it’s OK to admit it!

  • Stuart Davison

    This is a bit personal but here it is – I experienced a psychotic break at the beginning of this year, and there were certain moments which prompted the thought/idea/reality? of the awakening of higher consciousness. I’ve read up on how others have also had a similar experience, a totally natural occurence that wasn’t brought on by the use of drugs or anything else external. It is as though there is something brewing…

    • Francene

      Yes, Stuart, I understand, and with more I experience, I have come to understand that these psychotic episodes are, indeed” precursors to something new being unveiled, and so I don’t fear them as much as at the beginning. It truly is a re-wiring of the brain!

  • Cristina Lee Monaghan

    I see rainbows around the moon at night…… also around car headlights, and street lights….. sometimes I see them around the light in my home…..

  • Sin

    I am all 21 traits… and then some… Awakening Empath.. in the time of the Great Awakening…. Light and Love… Namaste

  • JJ Conway

    There are certain qualities posted here that I’m sure a lot people reading this feel they can relate with; that they too are “enlightened” or “awakened.” That’s fine, your beliefs are your own however I feel it should be kept in mind that it will be unique for every individual, as Jiddu Krishnamurti so eloquently put it, “Truth is a pathless land”

  • Heather

    I have a couple things to add to the list. When I hear other people stating opinions, their statement encourages me to view their notion from a larger perspective, even if I normally share the same view point.
    I am rubbed raw when I have to be around people who don’t like themselves.
    Any place of worship recharges me, whether its Buddhist, Muslim, Christian.
    Water recharges me
    And I have an ever increasing desire to try find some kind of common ground with those whose actions are detrimental to our planet and our people. I feel their reality and ours must be significantly different. There must be a way that these rascals can feed their insatiable need for power without causing so much damage!

  • c.wright.thru.

    Divine infinite ever-increasing blessings, praises, gratitude, love, light, peace, freedom, healing, prosperity, ascension, joy, prosperity and oneness to you, Christina, Waking, Times, and ALL, easily, effortlessly, NOW, and eternally.

  • Jackie

    Half of 2,3, and 4 I haven’t quite reached.

  • I would be willing to repost had you not mentioned TV or the church. The Church limits it to those who practice Church- like religion (Leaving out Buddhists for example,) and Television which unlike many who declare it as being mindless yet watch behind close doors…I am totally addicted as a way to relax. Shell of “Recovering Autism, ADHD, & Special Needs.”

  • Pimedev

    I think we are all more connected in a sence after this read and will find each other sooner if its needed. There are great teachers whos names will never be mentioned at schools or busyness literature, they are silent parts of our being and are awaiting to assist us in our survival. Just as we need hands to get food not to starve phisically, we need them to remind us something we have forgotten so that we dont feel down emotionally. The most giving in my case is Darryl Anka. Yours, somewhere.

  • Lilian

    You haven’t mention: The activating of synchronicity that helps us to use the intuition

  • Anonymous

    yesss…i m not alone…super…

  • Ian

    THANK you SO much for showing this, and I really want to meet others of my kind, plz, I’m tired of being so alone in this, as far on the physical plane goes. I’ve been practically raising myself, forced to have a mask just for protection. unfortunately Tulsa Oklahoma is not yet a/the center of awakening, so can anyone truly kind and open-minded plz come to Tulsa, I need to meet more of my kind in person.

    thank you all, and good luck to us ALLLLLLL!!!! 🙂

  • Michael

    Great article, really helped





  • Gustavo

    We need to be “beacons” of light, in our actions and our toughts! The more beacons there are, the more brighter the world will become, and this is as simple as 1+1=1 😛 ! We are more everyday and has we unlock the true potentials of our beings i think that each one of us has the responsability of touching and helping others discover and unlock their true potentials also! I wrote sometime ago, ” Be the sun and soon you will see flowers growing around you”! For those who practice it, they already know what im talking about. When you are shining inside and outside, its almost mathematical, you will see the change on the world around you, on the flow of energies and you will start noticing little miracles everyday!! Its very important to Live with joy in the heart and learning to select the perspective on what you look at things… I remember some time ago i was in a rainbow gathering and we were doing a fire, it was raining and the wood was wet…i remember thinking, ” humm there is a small flame but i dont think its enough” and in the same exact moment an old woman that was camping near us and helping with the fire said ” Yeyy, a small flame, i can see hope, soon we will have a fire”! A little difference but makes such a big transformation on how we should change the perspective and the way we look at things and life in general:D
    Interesting times we are living, i feel enormous energy shifts, like a rollercoaster sometimes, just have to keep the balance and continue surfing those energies!! If you fall thats ok, soon you will get up with more experience wich is very helpfull!:D
    Sending much love to everyone!! Keep your frequency high and free of fears!!! I read the other day, walk with sun in the face that way the shadow will always be projected behind!:D A good day for everyone!Love you all!!! 😀

  • Sid

    Its a relief coming across this especially when in the throes of a ‘dark night of the soul’…. However small this ‘group’ is, it sure feels good to know that there ARE more like oneself ‘out’ there.. its just a matter of finding them, and (re)connecting with them.. 🙂 Thanks Christine! 🙂
    How about a online community or smthg of that sort so that the people who have commented above or have read this article and comments can turn to for help and a sense of ‘belonging’ ?

  • Barry John

    wow – love this – we are an elusive tribe – and anything that unites and normalizes is good and this article unites a tribe of people who may often feel tribe-less. Most often being okay with that but sometimes wanting to drink the crazy world flavored kool aid. Thank you for this 🙂 it was a synchronicity I needed for this day. PEACE

  • Laurel

    Hello to you beautiful souls! I got to this site on a whim and loved reading Christina’s list. Check…check..check….all of the above! You may enjoy the very helpful book The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. It helped me both both understand and validate myself. I would also guess that most of us are INFP’s on the Myer-Briggs psychological Assessment. We tend to be introverted, intuitive, feeling oriented, and live in the present. By nature we do not match society’s dominant preferences, but by loving and accepting our gifts, we help both ourselves and the collective unconscious move toward a more inclusive and harmonious future of humanity. Love to you all.

    • Francene

      Hello, and thank you, Laurel, from another INFP! Hugs!

  • Joanna

    All my life I knew I was different but couldn’t understand why? Only recently I realized that I am an empath and that there are others like me. I have great love for humanity and a burning desire to help others but can’t because I feel stuck. Most days I feel sick, headachy, toxic and heavy. Now that I know the cause of these symptoms I connect more with the universe, visualize and ground myself to protect my auric field.It’s hard for me to function as I am so greatly affected by other people’s energies, both words and thoughts. Has anyone else had these symptoms?

    • Anonymous

      I have the exact same problem – maybe this makes you feel a little better. I can barely get up once I’m awake, I do not function in this society, I am done here practically. Soon I will live on the streets.

      I wonder how everyone can function so nicely with all these symptoms, I cannot. Best of luck to you all.

      • auspiciousbunny

        Anonymous, although I currently have a “good” job I have been plagued by so many immune system problems and sensitivities for 15 years that I live in constant fear of the same thing. In the past I have become overwhelmed by toxic enivronments to the point that I developed all kinds of auto-immune issues, asthma and allergies, and physical emotional pain to the extent that on a few occasions I have quit a job in order to recover both physically and spiritually. It is a crime that humans must deal with this.

  • Your article is thought provoking and inspiring. Most of all I like that you stand for the cultivation of consciousness.

    My own awakening began to accelerate as I began to clean up my own inner terrain. I became acutely aware that the numbing and dumbing down of our consciousness had much to do with us being anesthetized by that which we consume on a regular bases, and in ding do deviate from nature. The consumption could range from the addition to stimuli that our society is fostered in, the foods and chemicals we consume, and the continual accumulation of waste matter deep within the body, that further inhibits circulation, and ultimately consciousness. When all off this is systematically removed and an awakening like no other occurs. The quite intuitive voice comes to the fore. We become acutely aware of our spiritual birth right awakening out of a long slumber. This awkening led me to share and teach this mechanism of cultivating consciousness though my website artofdetox.com and the Secrets of Detox Workshops.

    It is in my quite moments that the most profound insights, awarenesses and guidance comes shining through. Most rewarding of all is the awakening to who you really are.

    Your list beautifully captures the glimpses along this path as that awakening occurs. We are living in a wonderful time where this is accelerated. With this knowing comes a new responsibility…the need to conduct our selfs in new and improved ways. Many of our old ways are outdated and no longer work.

    At a basic level, each one of us has a responsibility to our selfs and those around us to “clean house”, for the greater good of our world.

    A huge word of thanks for sharing so unselfishly.

  • Let this be your forum NoorDeen. . .the people speak! Love to all of you!

  • NoorDeen

    Peace be uppon you all

    This is the first time i’m learning of others who are like myself, sensitives. This really is amazing.

    As a cild, i felt that i was an outsider looking in on world. As if i was at a show of some sort and life was just a drama on a stage. I can remember being 7 or 8 and telling my aunt to give some of our land to the neigbors so they can also have enough. She in turn laughed at me and said: You are just a child. You don’t know how the word works. I can still feel the pain i felt at that moment.

    I’m 39 now, married and have two wonderful sons. My re-discovering of spirutuality is very difficult for my wife. I have alredy lost some friends and i am offisially the spirituality-nutcase of the family. All this time, i’m thinking, why the hell can’t people be nice to each other.

    Thank you so much for this article. Is there any forum for people like us?

  • Brent

    I am amazed at the accuracy of these 21 traits that certainly apply to me.
    I remember being like this as a child, but as years went on something happened to desensitize me. I am now 49 and what happened to me just over a year ago I believe has helped lead me to this awakening.

    I watched a documentary called Genetic Roulette, it was about GMO food and herbicide, pesticide use in food. It prompted me to a great investigation of our food and water. What I found out shocked me to my core. My wife and I have 4 daughters. Once we had all the information at our finger tips, we had a family meeting and choose to throw out all the food in our house and purchase certified organic food only. We also installed a water filtration system that removes heavy metals, chlorine and fluoride. I discovered fluoride is largely responsible for clogging your pineal gland which is the driving force behind these traits you speak of.
    Now I am 30 lbs lighter, my energy and metabolism is through the roof.
    All of the 21 traits mentioned here started to come to me with in a few months of making these changes. All the members of our family have had very positive results also.
    I do feel this awakening is some how cosmic, but it certainly helps to have a clear head and vibrant energy.

    I am so happy to know that people with these traits are abundant. I was concerned that I was being singled out. My family members have been enjoying great health, but they are not experiencing this connection to these traits on the same level as I am. My awakening has been aggressive to say the least.

    Here to communicate with you.
    Peace and Love

    • Brent, I too followed a similar path, including also meditation and yoga. I do notice that these traits, as well as others I didn’t even mention are ‘stronger’ when I am cleanest. I am so glad that you did this for your family. I do know everyone ‘awakens’ at their own best pace, for them, so that the circuits don’t get ‘fried’ along the way. Peace to you and your family too.

    • Francene

      Brent, my path has been similar to yours. Regarding fluoride and the pineal gland, a trusted friend and healer, Ingrid Naiman, at Sacred Medicine Sanctuary, was overjoyed when she finally found an obscure piece of research showing that tamarind (of all things) is capable of decalcifying the pineal gland (calcification is what happens to desensitize it by years of drinking fluoridated water and using fluoride toothpastes) and excreting the fluoride from the body. Even at times when I am running low on cash, this is the first supplement that I make sure not to run out of. For those of us on this path, this seems very important to me.

      She sells it at her website, and also at Amazon. http://www.amazon.com/Tamarind-Extract-2-oz/dp/B00EFB5TCY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1388010139&sr=8-1&keywords=tamarind+sacred+medicine

  • Bob Stuart

    It really feels great, attributing some of my disabilities to enlightenment. I hope I don’t overdo it. However, it does not take any psychic ability to guess that meat in a package was conceived, raised, and slaughtered inhumanely. Bovine is an easy tonal language, but cowboys can’t tell Moohello from MooHELP!!!

  • Friend

    23. Feeling or almost seeing the music.
    Thank you for this great article. Love to all

    • Yes, and smelling colors, or feeling sound, or tasting smell, etc. All the senses seem to run together sometimes.

  • Hi all,

    I, myself, am sensitive and an empath. Ever since I was a child I had all those traits described on the article. But I have long accepted myself and learnt to take the best out of those traits. Nonetheless I believe every soul to be unique. These are generalized characteristics, that resonate to a certain group of people that has them (like me), but I could never define myself (or other people) only by them.

    The beauty of life is that we are all different and the challenge is learning through that difference. Other people will bring us fear and pain but also love and understanding. So I see the “other” and the difference as opportunities of growth and spiritual evolution. Also we should be careful for some of these traits when imbalanced can lead to a less healthy lifestyle and egotistical attitudes. Balance is important.

    Love Xxx

    • “So I see the “other” and the difference as opportunities of growth and spiritual evolution.” YES!

  • Višnja

    Thank you for the wonderful and helpful article.
    There is so much light on Earth at this time, and it is spreading out in all directions. Soon, you will see it completely take-over…. as Monty Keen says the Dark Ones must be and will be removed forever.

    Much LOVE to all

    • Yes, the love is growing stronger all the time. THANK GOODNESS!

    • Jose

      Why is everyone trying to take each other out? Can light exist without dark?

  • Elaine V

    This article is truly profound in that I hope to be able to share this with someone I truly care about very soon; Come “out of the closet” so to speak. I am a light worker and an empath and have been paralyzed by fear (ego) which has caused me medicate myself with food–especially meat, sugar, caffeine, etc. Anything to block this pain and feeling overwhelmed. A self inflicted Spiritual Coma as it were.

    Over the past year, I have started trying to shift my energy and seek out information in order to learn how to ground/protect/detox. This will include major diet changes and I am not sure exactly what I am afraid of. The universe supports me. I am an expression of love. Am I not? I am here to heal. Am I not? So why the hesitation? Vicious cycle– the food/toxins block my “knowing” and being able to connect to my higher self. To begin to heal others’ suffering, I must be whole—

    Amazing blog post. Thanks,

    • Francene

      Elaine, in the past six months, I have been guided back to the counsels of Jung and other mystics and spiritual teaches found in this amazing website. They have reminded me that there are “complexes” within the psyche, either collective or constructed in my personal unconscious as a way to deal with life’s challenges, that control me, making me think they are me, until I turn around, look them in the face, name them, and say, “No! You are not me, and I am not you!” It is taking a lot of conscious effort to crawl out from under the heap, and to distinguish what is what, but it is well worth it…and helping with food addictions and other things for which I couldn’t find a key.


  • Misfit

    Why do I wake

    in the middle of the night

    always seems to be

    around the same time

    after 3 am

    but before 4

    feeling wide awake

    and needing to be up…

    Strange that I don’t feel tired

    when I should

    but burn out quickly

    for no apparent reason…

    In my waking hours

    those I share

    with the walking, talking, somnolent masses

    I feel a greater sensitivity to negative energy

    my aversion to crowded environments

    has increased… and yet

    I yearn to be in unity

    with like-minded souls…

    I seem to zone out for long periods of time

    consumed with an overpowering need to sit

    and do nothing

    but drift within

    my thoughts and natures solitude…

    …is all this a sign my consciousness is adapting

    to new cycles of awareness –

    – is this spiritual awakening

    or am I simply a misfit

    in a world

    not designed

    to suit my needs.



    • Anonymous

      Millions feel the same

  • Stevie

    A beautiful big inner -YES- thank you

  • Great article and wonderful comments. I’d like to add the following with cudos to attachmentfree.com:

    Aloneness vs. loneliness
    Posted on May 15, 2012 by attachmentfree
    Aloneness is not the same as being lonely.

    Loneliness is desiring the company of another and not having it. Aloneness is being alright with either company or no company. Loneliness is attaching a feeling to a response another gives your presence. Aloneness is not pinning a negative or positive feeling with either being in someone’s company or not being in that persons company. Loneliness is placing how one feels at the feet of others, which is not a controllable environment. Aloneness is being independent of the good or bad opinions of others. Loneliness is determining how you’re going to feel at this moment based on how others are judging you or not judging you. Aloneness is seeing yourself as complete and whole regardless of how others see you or who surrounds you. Loneliness is a dependency on the attention you get from others. Aloneness is not living your life based on another’s expectations of you. Loneliness is marching to the beat of someone else’s tune. Aloneness is no longer marching to the drums of society. To be lonely is to live with people in a constant state of tension. To be alone is to live with people and fully enjoy their company without clinging. To feel lonely is a reaction due to an unfulfilled expectation. To be alone is a conscious choice. Loneliness is to experience people as “what can I get from them.” Aloneness is experiencing people completely and thoroughly, without anxiety or jealousy. Loneliness is having a taste for things of this world. Aloneness is a strong love of solitude. Loneliness is blindness. Aloneness is seeing.

    Its only when we are engaged in life and remain unaffected by it that we can fully become aware of the happiness that lies within us already.

    When we die to the need for other people we begin to see unobstructed what true love is.

  • u.g. phoenix

    …this can/could be an Good Aeon, but in the most presentense of the world that most of us see today, the Truth seemingly can be seen as an inconvenience (just ask many truthsayers or whistleblowers) there is an old quote said by whom I forget, yet it goes as such, “a chronicle of mans’ progress is a history of authority refuted…but today as before this can become damn unpretty for the aforementioned truthsayer/s or whistleblower/s…yet in this UniCosmeta (my own word here) lol, we are the unique of the unique, the stranger/s in this strange-est of a world, we are who/m we are, and yet we can become even better” by just me being me the u.g. phoenix. :))

  • Catherine

    Thank you SO much for posting this! It’s very good to know I’m not alone in my “weirdness” and desire to step away from the madness and selfishness of modern life.

    I often feel completely overwhelmed in huge supermarkets or on public transport and the first point suggests a reason why this might happen.

    Very encouraging and uplifting – please write more articles like this!

    Thanks again 🙂

  • Jamil

    Thank you so much for this particular blog post…I thought I was alone also. Good to feel like I am not on another planet for once..

  • Aaron

    It’s nice not to feel alone. Thank you 🙂

  • Very absorbing conversations… I add only one thought: if you don’t fit the world change the world to fit you.

  • Elaine

    I want to leave a comment to you all….such warmth emanating from all your comments…so nice not to feel alone…I knew you were out there! Haha
    Yes, so many if us feel exactly like you have all expressed but when you are out and about it is so hard to feel and see such beautiful Souls.
    When you meet someone on a one to one or in a small group. Don’t you find yourself automatically gravitating/scanning for a kindred spirit.
    With regard to the list, I would like to add:- I feel we have an innate frustration with the cruelty and pain in this World BUT coupled with great PATIENCE.
    Just a foot note, I personally have found that we seem to be great animal lovers too…does anyone agree please?
    Love and peace everyone X

    • Maurice

      Yes Elaine I agree totally with what you say. For a sensitive it can be a very hard world to function in.When out and about there seem to be so few like minded souls…not to say they are not there….there just seem so few. I had a cat for 16 years and realized most animals are much more compassionate than most humans and we can learn so much from them…and also Love and peace to all….

      • Amir Rey

        My journey of real transformation started about 6 years ago. When it was starting a Maltese who I named Marco came into mt life. Today he has been my teacher and best friend but not in a mans best man way. I serve him in a balanced, equal, I am not better than him relationship. I treat him better than any female in my life. I agree with you that there is so much we can learn from our little ones.I also feel he was sent from my original origin because of the trouble or harm that was happening to me. He truly has helped we get back to my original planed being. All the best on your journey 🙂

    • Yes, all beautiful souls, everywhere. It’s gorgeous. XOXO

    • J9

      I too identify with all the points noted- and have to completely agree about being draw to animals as their nature is completely non-judgemental. They have been some of the best teachers to me- in things such as kindness, forgiveness, and how to be present in every moment. I have spent almost 20 years in practically every facet of the horse industry and while I might not agree with much of the industry’s functioning, each animal has been a safe place of nonverbal acceptance for me to learn my real life lessons… The ones they don’t teach you in school 😉 And just as an interesting aside- I am currently employed as an equine midwife… I thought that was a little too on the money after reading through this list 🙂

    • Francene

      Elaine, I think that the deep love and compassion for animals, and to one degree or another being able to communicate with them and understand them as sentient beings would make a great #22 for this list. This has been a process of learning and transformation for me, so that now I no longer see my two cats as merely cute pets, but as individual beings, with their own particular reasons for being here, and each having chosen to share their lives with me. Even more, I have come to believe that we are together now due to agreements we made before coming into this life. All I have to do is look at the miracle of how each of them came to be with me. My youngest cat came to me after I was awakened at 2 AM one morning, I picked up my iPhone and pressed the Craigslist app, and his picture immediately came up from a posting by an animal rescuer, begging for someone to rescue this 4-month-old kitten from a high-kill shelter. As it turned out, the post was made only 10 minutes before I was awakened, for no evident reason. Thank goodness for all of our beautiful, spiritual creatures!

      • auspiciousbunny

        I agree 100 percent!

  • Edmunds

    Thank You for article!
    Here is something to add.
    2003 was stressful year. My both parents (nearing their 90 –tees) needed attendance.
    Distance between my working place and location of parents – about 100 km.
    And- to add to this – suddenly my left foot began to ache with so intense pain, that I was forced to see surgeon. (CT scan showed “once upon a time” broken an then healed bones)
    It was disaster. I could not step on my foot; the same time outcome of surgery – dubious.
    Get out of bus when returned from surgeon. And I just sat on stone taking my shoes off,
    being unaware how to reach my home.
    And then a Labrador (escaping its fenced yard) come to me and put its paw – like a stamp – for a moment on my foot. After we spent some time – it was surprise that I can step on my foot! (Few days it was somehow not comfortable.) From next day I simply forget about my “problematic foot” to remember today to tell about that my “doctor ”.
    That Labrador was owned by total strangers, so that I even could not tell them what happened.
    So now here is great guesswork for explanation… .

    • Free Spirit

      Hi Edmunds. The healing force is called chi, it has been used for millennia for curing illness or dis ease. Animals have access to this force as all with a vibration have. The Labrador sensed you needed input, so obliged. I had recent interaction with a horse who told me to write, so I do. Peace and love to you.

  • PP

    Many points above vibrate with me and i feel encouraged by the comments here that only I am not the crazy one around after living 50 years of “How you are supposed to live” life.

    Since few years back, I lost my job due to trying to bury my uncomfortableness with the word society religion and its ways by drininking away,I had time to read thru many scriptures (all mean and point to same direction and are same in essence)and did meditation for 2 years (I need to restart now I know) i had the definition of whole word changed in front of my eyes. I am peceful, accept most things without reacting, can control my emotions mostly, have synchrocity happening many times in my life, and I am happy to be alone and enjoy it too.

    The consequent effects on family -friend-professional relationships are a still being challenge to meet but I am progressing step by step. I am doing it by being peaceful in mind, patient and trusting the One God/ Power/ Creator to guide me always and bless me with wisdom and encourage to keep on going ahead. I love to be a humane in progress towards what is meant for me as pupose of this human experience.

    Aum, Amen..Peace & Love to All…

  • Maurice

    For me I experience ALL of the 21 traits. For me it is a struggle just to get through the day let alone flourish ! But glad to know I am not alone. I feel everything about people and find it hard to separate what is theirs or mine. feeling others pain is the worst kind of all. It never goes away.

    • Heather

      There are ways to deal with being hypersensitive. Crystals can help, focusing on the heart chakra helps, prayer helps. And if you are in the habit of trying to keep everyone around you happy, STOP.

  • Matt

    Great article. I can relate to just about every single one of these traits

  • Free spirit

    Wonderful article thank you and loads of great comments too. I have found during my sixty plus years in this vibration that the only changes we can make is with ourselves and then once we are whole, or even close, we will attract those who need us and whom we can interact with. Then our love will carry us along, it is the only truth, everything else is an illusion. blessings and love to all

    • Thanks, Free Spirit.

    • Sadiesan

      Thank you Free Spirit.

    • Francene

      Thank you, Christina, and thank you, Free Spirit! I, too, have spent sixty-plus years in this vibration, and I agree with everything you say. Christina, I checked off everything on your list!
      As much as I would love to have the warming physical presence and embrace of everyone here, I understand there are reasons why we have not discovered each other living next door or had success in creating physical communities. Something I was reading today brought home the point that life is not happening TO me, but FOR me, and that in the very discontent and separation I feel is to be found the wellspring of creativity needed so desperately by our world. Just thinking of the odds of “stumbling” onto this link on Christmas Day brings me joy! So to everyone here, rejoice in knowing we are on the same path, that we can embrace and love our “strangeness,” and that the world needs us to be exactly the way we are. Blessings to all!

  • Brendon

    All of these rang so true to me. I’ve been trying to understand my place in the world for a long time and know where I fit in, but at the same time have been fighting it for so long. #14 especially rings true for me and due to that my life can be/is viewed from other people/society as an absolute failure. I don’t know how to be apart of this world doing a “normal” routine anymore. So I guess my question is how do we go about living in solidarity while having the yearning to be around others? I constantly have that battle in myself and never quite seem to know what to do with it. Also where can we find these communities like Malcolm was talking about?

    • Goldie

      Brendon, I would love to know the answers to the things you asked too. I have even considered creating my own. It’s crazy, though, isn’t it? but they have to start somewhere. I don’t know how to exist in this world, and have thoughts that i want to leave it but I don’t feel suicidal… how else does one leave what we know and create something that DOES feel right?

      • Heather

        Maybe we need to change the rules…

      • Anonymous

        Once we learn to let go, we will feel more at peace. We often don’t want to let go,we become extreme control freaks because we always feel out of balance. We have to learn that another’s experience is their own, so we shouldn’t be critical of their “ride.” They need to experience these things in order to learn from them to move on to the next step.

        I remember as a child, I couldn’t play “make believe” scenarios/games. If it wasn’t real, I felt I was wasting my time. I had been very lonely because I couldn’t play with dolls, and have tea parties, play with fake money. It drove me nuts. All I could think of was going out into the “real” world to get started with life and move on. I also thought education was a bunch of bs. I couldn’t see the point of all of this paper stuff if I couldn’t apply it now. I wanted know about plants and their healing properties. I knew we could communicate with animals if we learned to sit quietly long enough to “listen.”

      • auspiciousbunny

        If you are interested in creating a kind of community let me know. I am also interested in taking some positive action in this direction. I would like to be able to support this kind of change with other people who have had similar experiences.

        I have felt this way for so long, and have grown disenchanted with the coarse ideas associated with material successs in the US. I understand that people do attribute a sort of irrational magic to things like expensive cars, clothes, high paid jobs, etc, but in my view this gets in the way of real life. Conventional ideas of success seem like they serve as a psychological barricade. They keep me at too far a distance from my own heart, what is best in others, and the natural world.

  • Dan

    That’s a great article and beautifully written. Thanks and couldn’t agree more with most of what’s written in it.

  • you

    No.22 Perfection, or wishing we could do everything just right?
    i’m a number 22, and it is known as the number of Perfection.
    I know i’m not Perfect(very close?)but that does not mean i can’t strive to attain it. That’s the fun part!

    • dimitri

      Yes! Awakening tends to drive some into being OCD about certain things.

      • Joysing

        YES on all of the above.. I would add, since I was a child I felt this world was unreal, sometimes like a cartoon or I felt I came from another place, another planet, hard to put in words, my body seem strange to me. It’s always been there in the back of my mind. I begin my search in childhood for the answers.

        • Iain Lewis

          Same here. However, all the 21 “traits” are typical of those of us who actually come from “elsewhere”, and are often referred to as “Wanderers.” Some of us have clear memories of our planet or dimension of origin.

          • Anonymous

            This is really interesting as I have always felt like I was dropped into an alien world that I did not understand and thought it’s not like this where I come from even though I could not say where that is and I miss it, there is a Celtic word healdreth, which means, longing, homesickness I know how this feels

        • Lenny

          es, I distinctly remember a sensation I used to have regularly, particularly when walking to school by myself in about 4th grade. I felt as if I could be dreaming that I was walking to school-that I was possibly lying in bed sleeping, dreaming my day. It was almost physical, a kind of heaviness, or a disjointed-from-this-plane sensation.

      • you

        The phrase obsessive–compulsive has become part of the English lexicon, and is often used in an informal or caricatured manner to describe someone who is excessively meticulous, perfectionistic, absorbed, or otherwise fixated.[2] Although these signs are present in OCD, a person who exhibits them does not necessarily have OCD, but may instead have obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), an autism spectrum disorder, disorders where perseveration is a possible feature (ADHD, PTSD, bodily disorders or habit problems),[3] or no clinical condition.

        The last part applies to me!

    • Matt

      I can agree with you 100% on that. Everything I do has to be done perfect or I’m not satisfied. Its frustrating when you have to get something done in a hurry and you don’t have the time to be perfect.

      • you

        Good point! so in answer to your question, Why hurry? if it leads to mistakes?
        unless of course your talking about dead-lines imposed upon you? and that means that really is not You? and Making Time is all about Priorities!

      • I don’t know… I’ve come to believe that “perfect is the enemy of good”. For so much of my life I have prided myself on a sense of perfectionism. But the downside of this is that if something that I had done was not “perfect” than it was no good. And believe now that this has been the source of an unwarranted amount of self-hate.
        What I believe now, and what I’m trying to live day-to-day is that there is no such thing as “perfect”, unless our definition of perfection includes the inevitable flaws and failings that are our lot as human beings.
        So now I simply do my best.

        • Ben

          I’ve been an obsessive perfectionist for most of my life, and while it still haunts me from time to time, experience has taught me a lot. Knowing where and when to apply perfection is key. Writing this post is one of those times:)

          First, I think it’s important to understand that “perfection” is just a human word or symbol for an abstract idea. Its effect on your life can only go as far as the faith you put into whatever meaning you’ve given it. The idea of perfection, however, is one of profound and infinite truth, given to us by the great spiritual leaders of human history. Viewed this way, we can come to realize that all that exists in the physical world, all of creation (and death), is perfect. It’s perfect simply because it exists. If a thing or an event weren’t perfect, it wouldn’t exist. And the story ends there (for us living humans anyway). Ceaselessly trying to make our earthly pursuits in work, art, or relationships “perfect”, is in a way, a denial of our own perfection and existence, and that of Nature and God. The pain of loss and inadequacy we feel when something doesn’t go exactly the way we want leads us to label and condemn these events as errors, mistakes, failures, defects, etc. etc. Again, these are just words, and while they may be useful to communicate an idea, their meaning is not definite. The real truth is that they are also perfect. They help us to learn, grow, and evolve as humans and ultimately fulfill Nature’s design which we are not equipped to fully understand. By doing our best to accept and embrace ourselves and our “failures” we can use our love to shed light on them and improve upon them and help Nature’s course. This is the source of our greatest potential for happiness and joy in life. The old saying, “nobody’s perfect” is really just a lie–born from a moment of self-doubt cascading into a never ending cycle of confusion and suffering. Being a logical and moral problem with no solution, it can safely be ignored. If you’re ever troubled by it, the other old saying “you’re perfect just the way you are” is much closer to the truth.

          • Anonymous

            Resounding…….Thank you for putting that into words!

  • Malcolm

    While I consider myself to be on a long-standing spiritual path, sometimes lived, often just observed, and which indeed has led or contributed to the divorce I am currently undergoing after a 25 year relationship, it has still been a shock to my system to see 21 ‘traits’ that resonate and vibrate so freely with what I am and have been feeling.

    Thanks for writing and posting this, Christina.

    I suppose I would add that my calling has finally led me to actively begin searching for a community of like-minded/spirited souls who are undergoing a similar experience without the encumbrance of the flaky/superficial stuff that I suppose is referred to in trait #4 or thereabouts! I’ve been interested in self-sufficiency and intentional communities, as they are now called, for the last 30 years since I was a young man of 19 or 20 and this is partly what I am seeking – if I were to say more, it would be a simple reiteration of all the other aspects of your article – odd, but absolutely true.

    I am working through a deep, persistent calling that became so strong towards the end of last year that it finally gave me the courage to announce to my wife the need I had for solitude, a need which my wife could not cope with in any other way, ultimately, than a demand for divorce which, I feel, gave her the sense of being back in control.

    The calling has led me to have a deeper discussion with my mother about her own spirituality expressed through regular attendance at a Methodist Church and as recently as yesterday, a Q&A session with my uncle who is an elder in an evangelical church, as well as a seven day stay last week at a French chateau that is aiming to become a beacon to the world.

    Thanks again – onwards!

    • dimitri


      Sounds like I’ve been where you are now. Not atypical!

      If you will allow though, please give careful consideration to the need for community with the like minded. One always feels better and more secure when doing or being as others around you are. However, that path is fraught with disappointments. Avoid it if you can until you have done “work” on yourself. This will provide you with a necessary point of strength from which to interact with others down the road. One of the Buddha’s central tenets was that all seekers who truly want answers must endure a solitary journey: walking the path alone. (I’m not a Buddhist.)

      Both of my divorces (one at 30 and the other at 59) were followed by approximately seven years of solitary existence. It felt insane at the time, but, had I immediately after divorce reengaged with social groups with some sort of deep level of commitment, I would have drowned.

      Have a nice trip!

    • Welcome, Malcolm!

    • Goldie

      Malcom, I too am going through what you are, after 25 years of being together, 21 years of marriage. I also have felt the pull toward that kind of community, only within the last few weeks and am wondering what in the world is going on with me. I am feeling the issues of everyone around me lately and it’s thrown me completely off balance. Finding myself using words that aren’t normally my own about what I thought was my personal issues, but maybe it’s just the expression of others’ feelings. I need to go sit outside on the ground for days i think, lol. Thanks you for sharing.

    • Heather

      My experiences with trying to live comunally are crap. Egos, arrogance, agendas, and contention. Its like the challenges any roommates or couple go through multiplied exponentially.
      However, their are parts of this country that have naturally attracted like minded individuals. Little epicenters where those who are trying to live sustainably outnumber the people who don’t care. Taos is my favorite example. Barter and trade are common. Their is a “free box” where people discard unwanted stuff so others might use it. Food not Bombs is well established their. Its beautiful. Hundreds of people live off the grid there. Oh, and its got more artists per capita than any other place in the world. Go there some time. You will trip out. The only people who look “normal” are the tourists!

      • auspiciousbunny

        Hi Heather, Naomi & all,
        I really relate to this article. However, it has been very difficult to survive in the US with the money issues. After making a lot of spiritual progress, I feel myself sucked back in to this sick culture at every turn. I experience a mixture of compassion, a feeling of experiencing multiple awarenesses of different perspectives, and then slip back into anger at feeling used by others who try to take advantage of my openness and vulnerability to them. I started to feel a spiritual awakeneing in my early twenties in the late 1980s. It has been a major challenge to try to balance my life over the past twenty years.

  • Naomi – you are welcome! There are more of ‘us’ out there than you know!

    • dimitri

      Pick me!

      Especially devious is the influence of the Energy Vampires. They snag you before you know what hit you, and then it’s hell on wheels to get away from them.

      Nice list!

      • Tracy

        I learned to just ignore their cues. when someone says life sucks now, I leave the conversation because I know that it means that they want to suck my energy cause they dont know how to supply their own.

      • Elle

        That is so true! They just seem to want to hang out with you and suck all of your good energy dry! Meanwhile, their own negativity starts dragging you down! I have actually felt the ‘blackness’ of certain people before I ever saw them and knew who it was that was coming! The whole night was VERY long for me, every time!

    • WILMA


      • Yes, Wilma, tell us more about your experience. I think everyone could benefit from hearing about it. I personally, would love to share your connection.

  • Naomi

    Thank you for this beautiful article. It has brought tears to my eyes because my personality resonated with nearly every point. I often feel like I am ‘strange’, more of an observer of the world than part of it. Although I love my own company I can sometimes feel like a real outsider and become too isolated, this is out of choice I suppose. But it still makes me sad at times. I have always felt that people don’t understand me even though I can pretty much guess their every thought. From a very young age I have felt different from most people I come into contact with but I have never really known why.
    After reading this, I am more positive about my differences, thank you.

    • Yazz

      Naomi: Please know that you are not the only one who feels the way you do! I too have struggled for most of my life with the feeling of being a ‘square peg in a round hole’. When I am out and about I don’t feel that I belong with the crowds and can’t wait to get back to my haven, which luckily enough is amongst nature as I live out in the sticks! I too feel sad at times because I so want to feel ‘in the groove’ as it were, but know also that on a spiritual level everything is as it should be and that I am being taken care of from behind the scenes. As you said in your comments, after reading the article you now feel more positive about your differences. I too second that and wish you all the love & light in the world!

      • Naomi

        Yazz, it is so good to know that I am not alone! I have met just a few souls in my life who deeply understand me, as I do them, and I thank God/the universe for them every day. Even though I feel like an outsider to mainstream society, I have always felt protected and in tune with a greater source whom I communicate with daily. It’s just that I find it difficult to cope in this material, illusory world. I often struggle financially because of this, as I see money as false and unnecessary. I think that’s why I seem to reject money sub-consciously. This is something I must learn to overcome.
        We should all celebrate our differences. We were not designed to be sheep, we cannot possibly evolve if we are too scared to discover who we truly are. Life is a challenge yet a wonderful gift. Thank you for your reply. Love and light to you also! 🙂

        • Aman

          Hey Niomi, i fully understand where your coming from. Me being 22 years old, ive been going through a life changing experience myself by looking inward into myself for a couple of years now. Mainstream popularity only hits a few things that is suppose to be considered “LIFE” and when one expands out of that, it starts to feel like their is something wrong. I really know, but intuition and just listening ot my inner voice that everything your experiencing is awakening a deeper soul inside of you. Trust your inner voice for knowledge that your brain can only try to intellectualize. I can tell your are a special person with a warm heart, and ive learned to think with my heart through meditation which i think will just make your even more special. I have had the same mindset about money with negative feeling toward obtaining it. that has stopped my financial progress from growing, but i understand that its a tool to survive in this material illusionary world where image is superior to substance. I think that your supreme higher consciousness will guide you through all of the doubts the brain causes, which i also go through and create a wonderful life for you. JUst trust yourself by listening to that stillness that most people lack. May all beings being happy, Shed the your light to the world.
          Aman Bharji

          • Aman

            there my email to reach me

        • robert

          Hi Naomi,You are definately not on your own,i could just as easily wrote everthihg you have expressed above. I think i nearly ticked all of the boxes mentioned but there was one not mentioned and that was remembering being born,people think im mad when i mention it but i dont care it’s my memory not their’s.love and light to you.

          • Anonymous

            Hi Robert, that’s very interesting. My dad can recall his own birth, although I cannot remember mine. I have never met anyone else with this memory. What was your experience like? I would love to hear your story. 🙂

        • Heather

          Some people are sheep. Its shocking, I know. But some were meant to lead and others to follow.
          I also think money repulsive. Based on the symbolism, I don’t think “they” serve the same person we do. Also, why is one man’s wage higher than another’s? Why is someone else’s time worth more than mine? Or less? Are doctors, lawyers, etc really providing a more valuable service than a farmer? And who decides how much a person’s services are worth?
          Remember, some people are meant to be sheep. Anger at their inaction is futile. Showing them that their is a better way by being an example is a viable solution. Personally, I am tired of all the “truth” coming out. I am tired of being pissed off. I am ready to see some improvement. Some collaboration.

        • alex

          Its good to hear im not alone i tought before im crazy bechouse im different than others that article was my aha moment

        • alex

          Every word you wrote Naomi is scarying me bechouse i feel the same as you even with the monye issue that you have

          • Anonymous

            I too am not impressed with the monetary System we are outgrowing. It has served it’s purpose for the time, but for the most part has created a huge issue of injustice. How do we live without it….? For the moment we have carry on as usual, while we learn to change our direction so new ways come to light. I haven’t met anyone with an alternative solution, which leads me to believe we can keep a similar system but with the INTENTION of love not fear which creates greed. Changing our reason for doing what we do….having the mindset to function ( work) from a place of passion & desire (love) and understanding we are all trying to dig our way out of this mindset individually. Remembering not to judge. Not even ourselves. So hard I know!

        • Alex

          hi! I feel very identified with all these points too. Lately I’ve realized that many awakening people has money issues (such as artists/friends of mine), as we associate money with bad stuff. I’ve been working with my deepest feelings around money (and doing energy healing for that), the law of attraction (yep, “the secret” and “your wish is your command”)and here is something else that is helping me to understand, overcome it and get a completely different approach

          You can read what is about here:

          Or go directly to the videos here (it is free):

          All these togheter is working for me, so I hope it helps you too =)

      • Zed

        Naomi has written my exact words for me! I am just the same 🙂
        Blessings to you all

    • Dana

      Naomi check out this awesome book The Way Forward..it’s by this wonderful mystic from Africa..Bro. Ishmael Tetteh. He talks about how we are a mystery to be discovered and the need to be understood isn’t aligning with nature. This book really helped elevate me to a really content place. Hope this helps Danamarie

      • Naomi

        Thank you very much, I will try to get hold of a copy 🙂

        • Ty , keep your light shining bright . Too many peopke in the dark

          Ty keep your light shi

    • Anonymous

      Embrace your Strangeness!

    • alex

      Its good to hear im not alone i tought before im crazy bechouse im different than others that article was my aha moment

    • Fyre

      I’m glad to know there’s others like me that tends to feel too isolating. It made my day to read your comment that reflected my own feelings eheh.

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